The Power of Words

2017 has been a very surprising year. 

It has taught me the value of little things each time I was sure my life was stable and I was finally having control over it. One of those little things is the power of words. 

The best lesson I have learnt this year which was worth sharing was talking about my problems. Not to play the victim, not to find who was at fault, neither to pin point someone else mistakes but to understand the meaning of each single word being used. This helped me understand how words can be so simple yet complicated and powerful. 

Words are the strongest weapon we actually possess. Yet, we often do not know how to use them. Words are magical because it can help someone gets back confidence into himself but it can also crush someone into pieces in a lapse of seconds. It can make you feel like you lost your whole world, just like it can make you feel powerful and positive all of a sudden. 

Above all, some people use words to have control over us. They know they can manipulate us through it by either being mean, emotionally blackmailing us, yelling out our darkest side or trying to demoralise us by telling us that what we held on for so long was nothing in reality. 

After finding my small world crushing down because of all the bad things I heard, I realised that words were so powerful. 

Why?

Because I met some amazing people at the least expected time. Those people without realizing taught me how wonderful words can be. 

The simple fact of having someone to listen and trying to find meaning through the most depressing mind and thoughts. Afterwards, using the wisest words to find sense in everything and enabling you to get hold of yourself all over again. 

This is indeed the best gift I could have ever allowed myself to receive and worth sharing.

Understanding that a word is meaningless until we actually mean what we say. 

Understanding that a word is meaningless if it is coming from someone who is only trying to harm us. 

So everyone, before allowing anyone to hurt you, always remember that you control your own words. We have that magic wand. It is ours. Don’t let anyone shine your light with words that are meaningless. 

Know your worth and work for it. 

Use your own magic to spread positivity in other people’s life and not to discourage them from moving forward.

"Leave the past where it belongs- in the past"

In our journey that we actually call life, we often encounter this quote. Funny thing about it, is that despite the fact that everyone keeps on saying it, this is where everyone is tangled. 

How do you we leave the past where it belongs when memories that used to define everything about our happiness haunts us today?

How do we move on when we find ourselves going back to the same memory lane each time? 

How do we forget when these memories have been for long the only thing that has been defining us? 

How do we start afresh when we are so scared that building new memories will make the old ones lose the importance they have right now in our life? 

Truth is with time maybe we realise that everything became memories because it was not meant to be. 

Does it mean the person loses his importance in your life? 

I don't think so. We would always look back and feel happy about those. That person would always be as important as he used to be for giving us that particular place. However, it won't either erase the "why" we had to move on. The "why" will become the specific reason of everything becoming memories. This is what will give us strength to move on. 

And again everyone will be defining moving on. Maybe after all the pain we endured and all the scary thoughts we had about our past, moving on only means picking up all the broken pieces and defining ourselves again. 

Maybe it only means finding us back and discovering who we really are without being dependent on someone or without being in that person's shadow.

Or maybe it only means embracing life in a different way by being grateful for having people accepting us the way we exactly are. 

Finally, it is all about making peace with our past and starting all over again with a clean slate.

Follow your heart

We live in a constantly changing world. Things and relationship which yesterday used to matter so much, today seems irrelevant. Similarly, people who were once strangers or just friends to us today holds so much importance in our lives.

Relationships are confusing. Life is an everyday race which is everything but easy. However, did anyone every wonder what if we were the one complicating it all by our own thoughts? What would happen if for once everyone stop trying to make things perfect and just enjoy each single present moment to the maximum? What if for once we forget what is the best thing to do and just follow our heart?

It is true that it would all be just a big risk but life after all is all about taking risks and experiencing from those risks. Whether the outcome is bad or good, we are going to learn and become stronger from it. Some people keeps on living in their head and never put their thoughts into actions. Others do lots of things but get so busy that they can never enjoy one single thing they are doing.

I think that it would be nice and interesting if for once we just stop running and being selfish, and enjoy fully the moment we are living in. Unexpected moments can be the best at times. People we never saw coming can become part of our priorities. So, let us all smile big and enjoy the present to the maximum by following our heart. To reach real happiness we need to search with the heart because the eyes are blind.

Karma

Did someone ever thought of whether karma really exist or not? It's kind of a creepy thought actually because if indeed it were to happen, it would mean I will be a victim of it too.

I believe in karma. Always did always will. It's like an elastic force that make people realise that with time we all have to face the consequences of our act. Be it good or bad, it's an energy that the universe release back at the appropriate time. Everyone reap what they sow.

For each people, karma plays a different role. However, it shows us how to face life too. Each of our single decisions in life bare an outcome, something that for us may prove to be good but for others bad. Karma gives us back our action in the form of an exact opposite reaction. People do not have to do anything to show others their mistakes. In fact, I believe that at times it is better just to walk away unspoken from nasty comments of people, especially when we know they are talking rubbish about us. The reason of this belief of mine is not because i am coward but because i have seen people realising their mistakes better when they face the similar situations they once created for others.

It is difficult to wait and hope people will realise their mistakes after they hurt us. However, the best advice will be to walk away and move on. People always realise their own mistakes and learn better alone and with time. If we know someone is wrong and we tried our best to explain but yet it did not work, the best thing is to let it be. With time everyone changes and grow up. What is happiness and necessity today maybe useless tomorrow. So, if we have nothing to blame us as we know we were just victims of other people bad decisions, why hurt us and care more, when karma exist. Just walk away head held high and remain yourself. Everything else will just happen at the right time.

However, wishing and doing bad to people who wronged us is not call karma. Karma is just an energy that only the universe has control over. So, let us all just be ourselves and live the maximum by enjoying the company of people who sincerely loves us. Everything else will just be perfect in the appropriate time.

Roller-coasting life

Life is a roller-coaster that keeps shocking us at every moment. At some point in time we feel very happy and secure with it, then the next moment we realise that for some reason that happiness was snatched from us. At one moment, we have no hope but then unexpectedly, we get something better than what we wished for.

People say that time is what heals us and make us better, but i think time gives us strength to get use to the situation whether it is good or bad. With time, we acquire patience and gain experiences from our previous actions. Not everything always happen as per our wish in fact very little happen like we always wished for. However, it is only during hardship, struggles and through  breakdowns that we really know where we stand and who are the people who really love us. During those periods, we even get to discover sides of people we never thought ever existed or we were too blindfolded with our own perception of things.

Letting go is not easy especially on things we really value but once we really get determined to do it and allow changes to come, we realise how beautiful life can be. We learn how to appreciate little things over again. We found ourselves back and become better because we acquired a lot from previous experiences.
Afterall, life is an everyday roller-coaster and what is its use if we do not take the time to appreciate the maximum out of each single moment. The ride is very long and unexpected but still it is our choice to enjoy and make the best out of it. Therefore, why don't we spend everyday laughing like its our last one, love back the people who loves us and let go of those who no more care.

2014

2013 has been the year i have fallen the most, cried like hell yet the tears do not want to stop, faced endless problems and finally I realised that i had to wake up from my fairytales because there is a reason why they have an ending too. However, I still believe 2013 was one of the most interesting year of my life because it made me find myself back each time. I discovered that if some people can break your trust a thousand times and be toxic to you, there is always others who will help you and be there for you. Whether it is family or friendship, there are people will always love you unconditionally after you did so much mistakes and hurt them unwillingly.

This year, no matter how stormy it was, made me more courageous and stronger each time to assume my mistakes and faced them all. Running away by just disappearing like a foam is what we all dream of because facing them is often what seems impossible. The path to being strong and courageous is indeed very difficult and we feel lonelier each single day with no more hope of believing that things will get better. However, things can be a little better if we stop focusing on the pain and enjoy the little things we always had with the people who will always love us.

I may have realised it late but i learned how to appreciate my family struggling everyday to make me happy and comfortable with my life and studies. My mum who is always strong just to protect us from the bad of this world. My friends who no matter how bad the situation is make there best just to see me smile and for all of us to spend precious moments we won't ever get back. My siblings with whom i may not talk for months but who are always there when we need the best advice.

When i think about how long and difficult this year was i smile now because i know that without the pain and tears i would not have been that strong. I am also happy that i was able to found myself back. For long during this year, i was changing in a very negative way and i was stopping to believe in my dreams. Nevertheless, by finding myself back i realised that being positive i all i need to be and my dreams is what makes me so special and differentiate me from others.

People are always going to leave because we will need space to welcome new ones. Life is suppose to be difficult if its not it means we are not living it well. Our attitude to face the different situations of life is what makes us stronger or not. Mistakes are meant to happen otherwise we will never learn. Acknowledging, assuming and facing them is the real struggle, and it is different for everyone. No one can help us if we do not want to help us.

I am grateful 2013 made me realised all this and i am happy that i experienced all this too because it helped me realised little things i would have never realised otherwise. 2014 is going to be a new year with even more challenges to face. Serious decisions will have to be taken. Therefore, i pray for it to help me muster lots of courage to face them all. I also wish that 2014 ends with my smile still being my biggest strength.

A New Beginning

Starting everything all over again is different for everyone. Everyone has their own reason of moving on and a different perspective of seeing it too. For me its letting go of all the pain by forgiving, not trusting again but just forgiving. 

I believe that without forgiveness we cannot have a brand new start as the pain will just be something we will try to escape from. Forgiving means getting the strength to face the bitter truth and accept it before moving on. By doing so we are sure not to fall down again for the same reason but on the contrary to get up stronger. Moreover, we would have learned from the pain and tears and know what mistake not to repeat in the future. It's an experience that will help to grow into someone better. Also, it is a way of making peace  with your past to live better today.

A new beginning is a choice that is difficult to make as it requires us to really want to accept a change and the consequences. It is easier to keep playing the hurt victim and repeating the same mistakes all over again but this also make us weaker each time.  People say time is the best healer but i believe time does not heal any pain it just make us get used to it. To heal our pain, we should choose willingly to accept it and assume all the consequences. 

No matter how many people will be there to help, we are the only one who will know our real pain and suffering. Therefore, we should gather our strength to fight our own battle alone. It may be more challenging but then the result will only be what we truly wanted and thus, we will be more satisfied. Afterall, it is only our life, not someone else playground to control it for us.